Paradigms
Paradigms are how we see the world. We often think we see the world as IT is. When in reality, we see the world as WE are. We see it from the perspective of our own paradigms. How do we change the world, we change the way we see it?
Here are 10 Paradigms of my Life Coaching practice:
Release the pressure to create change and focus on increasing choice.
Choice helps our brain. When we take something away…gluten, alcohol, etc. our brain wants to rebel. When we change the thought and give ourselves a choice instead, our brain is much more willing to agree with us.
Nothing changes in the world, or in anyone else, until YOU change.
Our thoughts about the world are the only thing that will change it. The good news is, we have the power to choose our thoughts. What thoughts are you choosing?
Every moment, feeling, and experience is perfectly orchestrated for your evolution.
Nothing happens TO you; everything happens FOR you. This is a tough one. Bad things can happen in life and we can be left thinking, why me? If we can lean in and learn the lessons we are meant to learn, we come out the other side with more tools and strategies for dealing with life.
There is never a downside to taking responsibility for your own experience.
Life, after all, is your unique experience. It is up to us to be reflective and take responsibility for the choices we make in life. There is no one to blame. There are only lessons to learn.
Desire is not selfish, it’s wise. It’s a compass pointing you in the direction of your life’s purpose.
Many people feel like wanting more makes them selfish. If we can turn that around and look at it as fuel for living our best life, that’s just what we can do.
The most efficient states for change are curiosity and amazement, not judgement.
How often does your brain tell you that you are a failure, stupid, or not going to succeed when you make a mistake? If we can get curious instead of judgmental, imagine what we can learn about ourselves. “Hmmm, I wonder why I want to eat that second piece of cake. I’m curious why my brain is telling me I will not succeed, when I know I will.” As I type this, I am reminded of how powerful this is!
Transformation is a continual process of letting go.
Wow...isn’t that the truth? Letting go can be tough. Letting go is a mental challenge. Releasing judgement, getting curious and letting go is a muscle that can be built overtime. It is not, however, something most of us are born with. It takes practice. Awareness is the first step.
Healing is an inside job!
We are the only one who can heal our own pain. We can have help from the outside world, but ultimately it is up to each of us to do the work that leads to healing. If you have ever experienced a traumatic experience, you know this all too well.
Life’s wisdom comes through the ups and the downs.
How nice it would be to skip the downs. I remember wanting to push fast forward when we lost our son. I wanted to escape the hurt. It was too damn painful. There is no fast forward. The only way out is through. Thank goodness I feel so much more wise now.
Everything that happens in a coaching session is right.
There are times when you will have big breakthroughs and other times not, but each session is meant to push you 1% on the path towards a more evolved self.
When we work on our paradigms, we start to feel our world shift. Things start to come more easily. We have more patience, more compassion, more empathy towards ourselves. We encourage more joy, laughter and ease into our lives. How? By shifting our view of the world. Need help doing this? Book a free consultation to see if life coaching is the right fit for you!
“If you want small changes,, work on your behavior.
If you want quantum leaps, work on your paradigms.”
