Jack’s Gift

In honor of pregnancy and infant loss awareness during the month of October, I thought I would share our story. The stigma that surrounds this very delicate subject is astounding. Most women who experience a loss, never talk about it. When we lost Jack, I had several people tell me that they, personally, had been through a similar loss or it was their mother, grandmother, best friend, sister and that they never spoke about it. Many did not have a name for the child. It was almost as if it had never happened, although it did. It was very real and it changed lives.

Whether it is a miscarriage or a still birth, the grief is different than any other kind. Losing a full term baby is especially hard, as there is no hiding from it. Pregnancy is such a public event. Bringing attention and normalizing this kind of loss is important. Women often feel very alone through this process. Not even their husband or partner can truly understand the loss the way they do.

My intention is to share our story in hopes of helping other families do the same and to honor our son!